I remember the time when it was difficult to accept Alexandra condition. Very difficult..... She was not what I wanted or expected. I found out about myself along the way who I am and who she is.
It takes time to heal, and let grief go away. So much to let go! I had to take some conscious steps to accept and these are my recommendations.
- Each time you think she is not what you wanted, switch your thoughts right away to a thought of acceptance. Like : She is beautiful. Watch yourself closely, do not let yourself go to depressives thoughts.
- One things who was making me sick, was when I was thinking of all the things she will not be able to do., and I will not be able to do because of her condition. So stop this. Be vigilant with yourself. One important step is to not compare her with the others, but to recognized her qualities.
- When I started to watch my negatives thoughts and started to replace them by positives ones everything changed.
- My recommendations is that you start to see all the small good things you can found about her. Tell her how cute she is, how strong, how interesting, how intelligent,how sweet, How much she is doing well.